Testimonials

Testimonials for:  The Power of Direct Mirroring
"This course has already had a huge impact on how I interact with those around me."

"For many years I have been trying to love myself. I didn't know how to get to that place of self-love and self-acceptance. I asked my counsellor, my friends, my family and I took other Haven courses. All to no avail.

In Mirroring, when I looked in the mirror, for the very first time who I saw looking back at me was my lovely self! I finally found her after years of searching."

"I've taken many courses at Haven and have grown with all of them in various ways, but the thing that really struck me about "Mirroring" is how absolutely invaluable I thought it could be for people who are parenting. Obviously we're all affected by the parenting we've been given in our lives, (that's probably why Haven is so darn successful), but I never would have guessed a course could SO clearly define the origins and pathways of those messed-up messages. For me, I now have more clarity on a day-to-day basis about destructive messages in my head that are old reflections, no longer needed or useful. It was surprising to learn how even a parent with the best of intentions (eg. "I'll never do to my child what my parent did to me") can do the same damage or more as one who openly abuses. It's an eye-opener, whether you're currently parenting a child, plan to be a parent, or...once upon a time, had a parent."

"Just like the mirrors that make us so tall & skinny or short & fat, I learnt in a recent Mirroring program at The Haven that in childhood parents unknowingly do the same thing. Telling their children how great they are or conversely that they have to do better. Although the parents may have had good intentions, these messages can have surprising negative consequences for the child. These messages stay with us and when we get married, or become parents or a boss in the office, we tend to use these same ineffective styles of communication to get what we want.

No doubt you remember being angry or hurt when you have been on the receiving end of one of these unpleasant messages, or feeling quite uncomfortable when you received an insincere compliment. In this Mirroring program I learnt how to deliver the straight goods, or if I was on the receiving end, how not to get hooked into an argument or power struggle. The program leaders provide the theory, lots of opportunity for discussion, and relevant practice to cement the learning.

I will use this new knowledge and skill in my intimate relationships & friendships and in all important or difficult conversations. This experience and my previous learning at The Haven have also been useful in the office where political situations and power struggles often take place. With these new skills I find it easier to be be personal and less likely to get into difficulties - and when I dont then at least I am willing to back and clean things up later!

So once again I appreciate The Haven, its great leaders, and the learning opportunities that they provide. You have made such a difference in my personal & professional life!"

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